Navigating an unplanned pregnancy in South Africa
Guidance for teens and parents
Facing an unplanned pregnancy as a teenager can feel overwhelming, but you are not alone. Whether you are a young person who has just found out you’re pregnant or a parent learning about your pregnancy, this guide is here to provide support, information and resources tailored to South Africa. It is compliant with South African legislation and designed to help you navigate this challenging situation.
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Options and support for young mothers
Supporting your pregnant child
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For young mothers: Your options and support
Finding out you’re pregnant can bring up a lot of emotions—fear, confusion, or even uncertainty about what to do next. Here’s what you need to know:
1. Take a deep breath
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. The first step is to take a moment to process your feelings. You don’t have to figure everything out right away.
2. Confirm the pregnancy
Visit a healthcare provider or clinic to confirm the pregnancy. They can also provide information about how far along you are and what your next steps might be. Healthcare services related to pregnancy are confidential and accessible to teens.
3. Explore your options
You have several options to consider, and the choice is yours. Take your time to think about what feels right for you:
- Parenting: If you choose to raise the child, there are resources available to help you, such as parenting classes and support groups. The Department of Social Development offers programs for young parents.
- Adoption: If you’re not ready to parent but want to give your baby a chance at life, adoption is an option. In South Africa, you can choose an open, semi-open or closed adoption through accredited adoption agencies like Child Welfare South Africa.
- Termination of Pregnancy (Abortion): In South Africa, abortion is legal under the Choice on Termination of Pregnancy Act (1996). You can access safe and legal abortion services up to 12 weeks of pregnancy without needing permission from a parent or guardian. Between 13 and 20 weeks, abortion is allowed under specific circumstances. Visit your clinic or a Marie Stopes Centre for more information.
4. Talk to someone you trust
Whether it’s a parent, guardian, teacher, or close friend, sharing your feelings with someone you trust can help you feel supported. If you’re nervous about telling your parents, consider reaching out to a counsellor or a trusted adult first.
5. Seek support
There are many organisations and communities ready to help you. Here are a few places to start:
- Marie Stopes South Africa: Provides confidential healthcare services, including pregnancy tests, counselling, and termination of pregnancy services. Visit www.mariestopes.org.za or call 0800 11 77 85.
- Childline South Africa: A free, confidential helpline for teens. Call 116 or visit www.childlinesa.org.za.
- SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group): Offers mental health support and counselling. Call 0800 456 789 or SMS 31393.
For parents: How to support your child
Learning that your teen is pregnant can be shocking and emotional. Here’s how you can provide support during this time:
1. Stay calm and listen
Your teen is likely feeling scared and vulnerable. Approach the conversation with empathy and avoid judgment. Let them know you’re there to support them, no matter what.
2. Help them explore their options
Your teen has several choices: parenting, adoption or termination of pregnancy. Encourage them to think about what’s best for their future while providing factual information about each option.
3. Seek professional guidance
A healthcare provider or counsellor can help you and your teen understand the medical, emotional, and practical aspects of each option. They can also provide resources for financial assistance, parenting classes or adoption agencies.
4. Be their advocate
Your teen may face judgment or pressure from others. Stand by them and help them make decisions that align with their values and goals.
5. Take care of yourself
Supporting your teen through this can be emotionally taxing. Don’t hesitate to seek counselling or join a support group for parents in similar situations. Contact SADAG at 0800 456 789 for support.
Where to find help in South Africa
Here are some resources for both teens and parents:
- Marie Stopes South Africa: Confidential healthcare services, including pregnancy tests, counselling and termination of pregnancy services. www.mariestopes.org.za or call 0800 11 77 85.
- Child Welfare South Africa: Information about adoption and parenting support. Visit your local Child Welfare South Africa office. You can search for it using the Children's Services Directory.
- Department of Social Development: Offers programs for young parents, including financial assistance and parenting classes. Find your nearest office at www.dsd.gov.za.
- Childline South Africa: Free, confidential support for teens. Call 116 or visit www.childlinesa.org.za.
- SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group): Mental health support and counseling. Call 0800 456 789 or SMS 31393.
Remember: You are not alone
Whether you’re a teen or a parent, it’s important to remember that there is help available. Take things one step at a time, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support. You have the strength to get through this, and there are people and resources ready to help you every step of the way.
If you need immediate help or someone to talk to, contact:
- Childline South Africa: Call 116 (free and confidential).
- SADAG Helpline: Call 0800 456 789 or SMS 31393.
- Suicide Crisis Line: Call 0800 567 567.
