How to soothe a baby: Mini Parenting Master Class

How to soothe a baby: Mini Parenting Master Class video

Soothing a baby can be hard. However, with a few tips, you can better understand what your baby needs and how to create a calm environment for both of you.

Hi, I'm Dr. Wanda Abreu. I'm a general pediatrician and mother of three. Let's explore some reasons why babies cry, how to comfort and soothe them, and how to get parents through this difficult time.

Why babies cry

Let's talk about why babies cry. Knowing why your baby is crying can make it easier to calm them. Here are a few common reasons.

Hunger

Babies have tiny stomachs and need frequent feeding. Newborns may need to feed eight or more times in 24 hours.

Discomfort

Check for things like wet diapers, tight clothing or temperature changes. Sometimes simple adjustments can make a big difference.

Tiredness 

Babies can get cranky when they're tired but then struggle to fall asleep. Look for signs like yawning, rubbing their eyes or slow blinking.

Need for attention 

Babies feel safe when they're held. Holding them does not spoil them. It actually helps them feel loved and secure.

Overstimulation 

Too much noise or light can overwhelm a baby. If possible, a quieter setting can be very soothing.

Signs of crying 

Let's go over signs of crying and what it can mean:

• Frowning or a wrinkled brow may show discomfort.
• Clenched fists or arching of the back might signal distress.
• Babies who are hungry might suck on their fingers or make lip smacking sounds

Ways to soothe your baby

Now, let's go over some ways to soothe your baby. Try these simple cost-free techniques to help your baby relax.

Gentle rocking or motion

Rocking them in your arms, gently swaying or going for a walk can be very calming for babies.

Soft sounds 

Speak softly, play gentle music or make shushing sounds. “Shh. Shh. Shh” Babies love the sound of their parents voices. You simply just want to talk to them.

Skin-to-skin contact

Holding your baby close and feeling your warmth can help them feel safe.

Babies sometimes have trouble with gas. A gentle tummy massage, moving in a clockwise circle can ease discomfort.

Remember, every baby is different, so don't be discouraged if one technique doesn't work. It may take some experimenting. I had to try different techniques with all of my boys!

Self-care for parents

Now let's turn to you and go over why self-care for parents is so important. It helps you stay calm and be able to better care for your baby. Here are some ways you can do that.

Physical health 

Prioritize rest, healthy meals and short moments of exercise to stay strong.

Mental health

Take time each week to do something that you enjoy, like reading or going for a short walk.

Support system

Don't be afraid to ask your partner, family, friends, healthcare professionals, or local community groups for support.

When you feel good, you can give your baby the patience and attention that they need.

Postpartum depression 

It's important to recognize postpartum depression. Many moms and dads can experience postpartum depression, which includes symptoms like sadness, anger or feeling disconnected from the baby.

Postpartum depression can be difficult to recognize as it can develop gradually. But if you notice these or other signs that you're feeling off, please reach out to a health care provider. Support and treatment can make a big difference.

Soothing a baby takes time and patience, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed at times. If you ever feel upset, put your baby in a safe place and step away for 5 to 10 minutes to calm down before coming back.

No matter how upset you feel, never shake, hit or shout at your baby.  

By understanding your baby's needs and taking care of yourself, you can make this time a bit easier. And remember, this is a phase that will pass. And you're not alone. Reaching out for help shows strength. And every day you're learning more ways to calm and soothe your baby. You've got this.

Dr. Wanda Abreu is a general pediatrician at NewYork-Presbyterian / Columbia University Irving Medical Center.