Public talk about parenting in Tivat

UNICEF research conducted last year shows that 1 in 2 parents in Montenegro justify corporal punishment.

UNICEF Montenegro
Rambo Amadeus with the UNICEF Montenegro Representative Benjamin Perks
UNICEF Montenegro / Dusko Miljanic / 2017
17 May 2017

TIVAT, 17 May 2017 – UNICEF research conducted last year shows that 1 in 2 parents in Montenegro justify corporal punishment. What are the real effects of such violent methods? This was the central question of the public talk held in Tivat, another municipality which joined the End Violence campaign.

Dejana Rudović from the NGO “Association of Psychologists” explains that some parents try hard to defend the “right” to hit their children, often forgetting the consequences of physical punishment.

Mayor of Tivat Snezana Matijevic
UNICEF Montenegro / Dusko Miljanic / 2017
Mayor of Tivat Snezana Matijevic visiting the Museum of Family Memories opened in the municipal building in Tivat in May 2017

“Children learn through the things they experience. The fact is that physical violence brings immediate results and that children will do what we want them to do at that moment, but this does not mean that they understand the reasons for such a behaviour“, Rudović says.

Famous musician in the Balkans and UNICEF Montenegro Goodwill Ambassador Antonije Pušić alias Rambo Amadeus agrees with her. Based on his experience as a parent, he warns that every hit or slap actually programmes the child to become violent.

I would advise all parents to imagine an adult person in front of them when their children upsets them. If they want to hit that child, they need to realize that this is the same kind of violence as if they were hitting an adult. And I want to give them another advice too. They should imagine that this adult person is three times heavier than them – that is the difference in weight between a parent and a child who is beaten.

Antonije Pusic alias Rambo Amadeus, UNICEF Montenegro National Goodwill Ambassador

UNICEF Representative in Montenegro Benjamin Perks reminds of the negative consequences of growing up in a violent environment.

The worse the attachment that the child has with parents and the greater the number of adverse experiences that the child lives through, the greater the probability that this child will have worse outcomes in life in terms of health, education, employment and the greater the risk that he/she will fall into crime or become a violent person.

Benjamin Perks, UNICEF Representative to Montenegro

Mayor of Tivat Snežana Matijević believes that all parents should ask themselves whether their child is growing into an independent, healthy and happy person.

Tivat citizens participate in a public debate
UNICEF Mopntenegro / Duško Miljanić / 2017
Tivat citizens participate in a public debate on parenting organized within the #EndViolence campaign in May in 2017.

“If you have even the slightest doubt if the answer to this question is positive, you should approach professionals, talk to someone, make yourself grow as a person as this will benefit both you and the child”, Matijević says.

National parents’ SOS line providing expert advice regarding the upbringing of children was established in Montenegro three months ago. All calls to 080 888 888 are free of charge and can be made from any phone network in Montenegro.

“The main message of the SOS parents’ line that we transmit to parents is that parents and children grow together. Nobody expects us to be perfect, but if we can all learn and grow with our children then we can really be good parents and a good society”, Lepa Žunjić from the NGO “Parents” emphasizes. This NGO developed the SOS line in order to support spreading positive parenting practices.

Public talk about the relationship between parents and children in Tivat was organized within the #EndViolence campaign implemented by UNICEF and the Government of Montenegro with support from the EU and Telenor Foundation.