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Co-operation games: Compliment beanbag
Many children are not used to giving or receiving compliments. Girls, and some boys, often become embarrassed and recoil when compliments are given. Similarly, boys and some girls are more used to criticising each other than giving compliments. Often children who give compliments or applaud others are seen as 'sucks,' 'mummy's boys' and given other less than complimentary names. When this happens, positive communication can be silenced.
It is worthwhile devoting time, especially at the beginning of the year, to making explicit ways of giving and receiving appropriate feedback, and to model and practise this regularly. It is vital that we reinforce the use of encouraging behaviour and language. This activity is one quick example of how to do this. It can also be extended by using written follow-up activities.
Note: A beanbag rather than a ball has been chosen for this activity to avoid the possibility of criticism for poor ball-handling skills.
When was the last time that someone complimented you on your work, your talents, etc.? How did the compliment make you feel? How do compliments concerning your appearance affect you? How well do you take compliments?
This game provides you and the children with a chance to compliment each other and, through this, to build up trust and acceptance within the group. There may be initial awkwardness in giving and receiving compliments but, like any other skill, children's ability will improve with practise. This game can be played on a regular basis and children can be encouraged to notice each other's positive qualities throughout the week.
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